Love (காமத்துப்பால்) / The Post-marital love
Chapter 130
நெஞ்சொடு புலத்தல்
Expostulation with Oneself
Nenjotupulaththal. Malay: Menegur Hati Sendiri. Kurals 1291 to 1300.
When arguing with your own heart.
How to say it
Avarnenju Avarkkaadhal Kantum EvannenjeNeeemakku Aakaa Thadhu
Meaning in plain English
O my soul! although you have seen how his soul stands by him, how is it you do not stand by me?
Poetic translation
You see his heart is his aloneO heart, why not be all my own
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Uraaa Thavarkkanta Kannum AvaraichCheraaarenach Cheriyen Nenju
Meaning in plain English
O my soul! although you have known him who does not love me, still do you go to him, saying "he will not be displeased."
Poetic translation
'Tis plain, my heart, that he 's estranged from thee; Why go to him as though he were not enemy
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Kettaarkku Nattaaril Enpadho NenjeneePettaangu Avarpin Selal
Meaning in plain English
O my soul! do you follow him at pleasure under the belief that the ruined have no friends?
Poetic translation
'The ruined have no friends, 'they say; and so, my heart, To follow him, at thy desire, from me thou dost depart
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Inianna Ninnotu Soozhvaaryaar NenjeThuniseydhu Thuvvaaikaan Matru
Meaning in plain English
O my soul! you would not first seem sulky and then enjoy (him); who then would in future consult you about such things?
Poetic translation
'See, thou first show offended pride, and then submit,' I bade; Henceforth such council who will share with thee my heart
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Peraaamai Anjum Perinpirivu AnjumAraaa Itumpaiththen Nenju
Meaning in plain English
My soul fears when it is without him; it also fears when it is with him; it is subject to incessant sorrow
Poetic translation
I fear I shall not gain, I fear to lose him when I gain; And thus my heart endures unceasing pain
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Thaniye Irundhu Ninaiththakkaal EnnaithThiniya Irundhadhen Nenju
Meaning in plain English
My mind has been (here) in order to eat me up (as it were) whenever I think of him in my solitude
Poetic translation
My heart consumes me when I ponder lone, And all my lover's cruelty bemoan
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Naanum Marandhen Avarmarak KallaaenMaanaa Matanenjir Pattu
Meaning in plain English
I have even forgotten my modesty, having been caught in my foolish mind which is not dignified enough to forget him
Poetic translation
Fall'n 'neath the sway of this ignoble foolish heart, Which will not him forget, I have forgotten shame
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Ellin Ilivaamendru Enni AvardhiramUllum Uyirkkaadhal Nenju
Meaning in plain English
My soul which clings to life thinks only of his (own) gain in the belief that it would be disgraceful for it to despise him
Poetic translation
If I contemn him, then disgrace awaits me evermore; My soul that seeks to live his virtues numbers o'er
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Thunpaththirku Yaare Thunaiyaavaar ThaamutaiyaNenjan Thunaiyal Vazhi
Meaning in plain English
Who would help me out of one's distress, when one's own soul refuses help to one?
Poetic translation
And who will aid me in my hour of grief, If my own heart comes not to my relief
G. U. Pope, 1886
How to say it
Thanjam Thamarallar Edhilaar ThaamutaiyaNenjam Thamaral Vazhi
Meaning in plain English
It is hardly possible for strangers to behave like relations, when one's own soul acts like a stranger
Poetic translation
A trifle is unfriendliness by aliens shown, When our own heart itself is not our own
G. U. Pope, 1886